I was recently contacted by an ex-girlfriend that I haven’t talked to for about two years now. Since I am stating that I haven’t talked to her in two years you can see that it didn’t end well. It ended after a series of arguments that I will say that are both of our faults.
The email was an apology for what happened in the past. It also stated that your not obligated to respond but from her writing she was open to a response. Of course I responded and I told her what I was sorry for in regards to how things ended.
There was some response from her and in particular asking me to explain what I meant by one of my statements. I explained myself and that was that. I did say that I wanted to have a pleasant no stress conversation with her and that outside of that I have no expectations or promises.
I stated this for a very important reason. Even though I do forgive her trust doesn’t come easy. What happens when relations are cut off between two people is that trust is either severely damaged for destroyed. To me trust is very important and not freely given. For real reconciliation to happen is that the issue of trust needs to be dealt with and that takes time.
The response I was given after hinting this was rude of course. She has been know to draw conclusions quickly without all the facts and getting angry quickly. Communication does seem to have ended and for me just as well. I do wish her good luck in reconciling her past. What she needs to learn that it does take more than stating she is sorry to succeed in it.